Dear friends & possible blog stalkers,
I receive many complaints about not blogging enough and not sharing enough updates on our family. I hear what you're staying. I do. And I love reading all of your blogs on a regular basis! However, I have a few issues/beefs about blogging.
Reason #1- (In the form of an example story) I like to read my friend Rachel's blog. Rachel and I were close friends in Jr. High, but we lost touch after high school . Thanks to Facebook... we reconnected, and I read her family blog. Well, she had this adorable story about her son, Gavin, who's about 5 years old. You see, Gavin had a missionary tag from church. He liked to wear it everyday. One day Rachel asked Gavin why he wore it so often. He said, "It's my baker's tag. I own my own bakery. It's very successful."
I thought that story was so adorable. I'd never met Gavin, but I just knew I liked him. So, I go over to Rachel's the other day for a BBQ. It's the first time I've seen her in years!!! I see Gavin. I'm a complete stranger, and I ask "where's your baker's tag?" He looks at me funny and must have been thinking, "Who is this lady, and how does she know about my baker's tag?" I felt very strange after that. I had this odd window into this boys life, and he had no idea who I was. I thought it was kind of creepy.
I wouldn't want someone to bombard my poor child with stories that he didn't know I was sharing with the world. You have to admit, that is kind of scary.
Reason #2- Blogging makes it WAY TOO EASY to share WAY TOO MUCH INFORMATION! Sometimes I see someone, who I may not talk to very often, and after reading their incredibly personal blog, I feel uncomfortable knowing things about them that they probably wouldn't have shared with me in a normal conversation. For example- fertility issues.
Reason #3- Blogging makes for good/awkward gossip. "Hey, did you hear that so-and-so is getting divorced?"
It's not my business to share that information, and I try to avoid that sort of thing, but I'm a stay-at-home mom- What else am I going to talk about? The color of my child's poop?
Reason#4- It takes FOREVER for me to post anything! Getting the pictures and text to look good together--- what a headache.
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I've considered going private to avoid Reason #1, but going from public to private is often the
"cause of death" for anyone's blog. Plus, I never remember to visit private blogs anyway. So, I basically keep my blog so that I have links to everyone elses'. Selfish--- I know.
In conclusion, I'm not sure what to do. I'm not completely convinced that blogging is a good idea. I love reading them, but the possible consequences frighten me. That's why I don't post more. Thoughts?
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I know your pain. But alas, I feel like, if I'm willing to write it in a blog, then I'm taking the responsibility of strangers and ex-mother's in law to read it. :) Ah well, what do ya do? I mostly write it for me. But it's fun to share stuff with people hoping that maybe someone out there cares about what's going on in your life. HAHA! Ohhh gossip...not much you can do about that. People I dind't even know that well knew I got divorced, so whatevs. I'm happy now and that's all that matters. :) Love you lil lamby!
All of your points are very valid Jen. I see what you mean and I definitely have those same fears, but I do write mine so people can know what's going on with me and my world when they're too far away to see us often. I have a lot of family and friends that are out of state. I mostly write it for them and also as an outlet for me. What do you do right? Where there is something good inevitably evil comes lurking. It's just something we each have to deal with and decide how we want to use it. I do love reading your blog though!
I love reading people's blogs, but I agree that it does make it awkward when you actually see the person in real life!! I love seeing how your family is doing :)
We have a website/blog which is www.theolsonfam.net
Take care!
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